I will not fake it till I make it

I will not waste my time doing things I don't enjoy. I would rather struggle to make ends meet doing what I love and being happy with my progress, my struggle & my impact rather than taking home a bigger paycheck doing standard things that I have no interest in. I have the luxury to do this so I will take advantage of it. 

Human connection is the strongest form of currency and always will be. I'm very time-conscious. I'm not the guy who says, "I'll just do it tomorrow". And a part-time job is something I wouldn't even think of getting if it has nothing to do with my field of interest. I see absolutely no value in that. Hours of doing simething you dislike are hours you can't get back dude, ever.

I dedicate so much time to all of my interests. (I have lots) And sure this stuff takes up a lot of time and I sure as hell don't get results right away. But there's nothing more satisfying than that constant chase of enlightenment with nothing to guide you but faith. The unknown...this new territory, the challenges, the lessons, the perspectives, the friends, it's all worth it. It's fun.

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Empowering minds & believing in people are two of my favorite things to do. Some people need a push and there is no ONE right way of doing it. Learning how to spark something in people's minds has been a very artistic journey for me. I love seeing someone's face light up through the excitement of an idea or just watching someone speak passionately about something as if they were talking about their crush. It's cute, it's real, it's life.

To me, what it means to be alive is to discover something within yourself & acting on it because it feels right. There's a risk factor in doing so because it's most likely unconventional but to you it's all that matters. If you don't act on it, it's like slow suicide.

I'd like to call this "thing", a passion for curiosity. I believe we all share this passion from the moment we are born.

The dating approach

I personally don't like the traditional format for dating or even what ever the heck kids do today. I've tried a few different dating approaches. Let's go back in time real quick.

Online Dating:

The first gf I had was from Myspace. We flirt a lot, I eventually got her AIM and then I got her number. That lead to late night phone calls and falling asleep on the phone. After a while she had less to talk about. More so because she was so "in love with me" that she become more self-conscious about what she had to say I guess? I'm not sure.
Not against it, I was really young and had no type of freedom so it was good for what it was but I wouldn't do that today cause we like legit never saw each other even though we lived in the same city.

"Oh you're cute":

I remember just finding a girl physically attractive and I would just talk/ flirt my way into her life. It was easy to do but those relationships didn't last long. Either cause I found that I wasn't actually attracted to anything other than their face or it just got boring.

The one's who grow on you:

When someone "grew" on me, these were the most interesting because at first I had no zero interest in them. Eventually I just started to catch feelings for them. These one's were weird cause I didn't know where it would go. One ended after like a month and half and the other ended up being my lover for a good 9 months. I had the most physical contact with these relationships and for the most part...that's all it was. Feeling comfortable with someone and feeling wanted by someone was new to me and I liked it. This approach is similar to the one's I'll be getting to soon, so I'm not sure how to feel about these.

I just want to know the real you:

I think it's important to have a friendship before a relationship because that's real. If you date someone because of lust you find out all the things you like and don't like afterwards. I like to know the real part of people first before I start making moves on someone. Now this doesn't always work out for me because I take my time. A lot of girls I've come across tend to rush into wanting to have someone to call their own and to me that's just a complete turn off. I read that as needy or just not taking enough time to learn my interests/ habits/ lifestyle. But that's just me and this is something I still do today.

I didn't see it coming (Long Term):

You can fall head over heels in like/ love with a friend unexpectedly. Timing is everything. If you both just happen to be in the right situation at the right time, boom, magic. You could have a relationship that lasts a life time because you have a friendship to back it up.  You also have a new found love for each other and lustful spark.

I didn't see it coming (Short Term):
Sometimes the "I didn't see it coming" can be a completely random person. This person might have taken your breath away during a poem she performed. Maybe you bumped into them by accident in the library or coffee shop. You then proceed to have a random conversation and just something about them, more than looks turns you on. Timing is crucial for this is well.

Tips:

Learn to read body language and develop good judgement. Feeling out vibes is very important for making friends and dating. If you suck at this, then you need to practice.This way you'll deal with less time-wasters in your life time. You can learn a lot about someone by their dating style. I avoid people who want to "settle down" or like me for superficial reasons. People think I would be good to date because of my motives, but then they don't have any motives of their own like what?
Know what you're about and don't settle for physical security because that shit is sad and some low-level stuff. Build yourself up for your dream spouse.

Me currently:

The fast life is what I'm about because being still is not my thing. I have no interest in people trying to slow down their life. I love adventures, dates, group hang-outs, and art.

Oh and I don't believe in relationships. I love with no strings attached, both friendships & love interests. If I like/ love you, then I'll show you. I don't live with expectations, and neither should you.

The Reality of change

1.      I’ve come to the realization that we’re not designed to do just one thing. Because as people we change, and that includes our interests. In order to live happily & gain the knowledge that we seek and obtain the satisfaction that we long for, we need to pursue our interests. Nothing lasts forever. The day might come where the particular skill that you’ve spent so much time perfecting is either no longer needed, not paying well enough, isn’t giving you the satisfaction it once was or maybe you went out of business because of competition. With all of that being said, we shouldn’t be afraid to pursue something else. There is no real safety net, the world isn’t safe, nothing is. We need to stop looking for security and focus more on doing things that are real to us. We need to do things that matter to us and the world. We need to not only worry about ourselves but look at things from a global perspective. What is the bigger picture? Our actions affect other people and we need to stop pretending like they don’t. One kind gesture can influence the birth of a chain of kind gestures.

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The unexpected isn't always "bad"

A lot things in our life come unplanned. The world does not revolve around us and I think people tend to forget that quite often. We as a species want order, we want familiarity, we want safety...but we as a single entity with limited control over what happens to us, can't promise for something to go smooth all the time. So when something "bad" happens you shouldn't look at it as a bad thing cause then it might alter your mood. We should look at the unexpected as chance. When you become more open to the unexpected, you welcome luck. We don't know everything and sometimes these random little episodes show us a thing or two, maybe not right away but it does eventually. Learn to look through the lens like this and you'll be a little closer to seeing and thinking like an optimist :)

I'll stick with faith because hoping is hopeless

I can't do drugs, I can't drink, I can't do what you're doing. I can't get satisfied off that. I'm not looking for a temporary void-filler. I'm not looking for a simple solution to a complex desire. I like navigating my own ship. I don't live to just consume, absorb & react to other people's stuff. I need to create/ produce, to vibe. I want to make people feel something, not just keep feelings to myself. I don't want to settle. I think the idea of being stationary and secure is whack. I'll lose my mind if I can't continue to lose myself. I want to always do better because that's who I am.

"In a relationship"

Just cause you're "taken", it doesn't mean that every person in the world who isn't your significant other is trying to get at you. I don't see any harm in casual or deep conversation. If your significant other gets insecure about it, you're digging yourself a hole by being with someone who is limiting your capacity for living life. And if you think you don't have the right to speak to others because of that reason, you need to reevaluate your life. Being stripped of freedom for the sake of this thing we call love is silly & something YOU WILL regret. Human connection is important emotionally, mentally & spiritually. And the more people you are able to connect with, the better off you are in every aspect of your life. You're full of yourself if you think everyone wants to get with you.