Online Dating:
The first gf I had was from Myspace. We flirt a lot, I eventually got her AIM and then I got her number. That lead to late night phone calls and falling asleep on the phone. After a while she had less to talk about. More so because she was so "in love with me" that she become more self-conscious about what she had to say I guess? I'm not sure.
Not against it, I was really young and had no type of freedom so it was good for what it was but I wouldn't do that today cause we like legit never saw each other even though we lived in the same city.
Not against it, I was really young and had no type of freedom so it was good for what it was but I wouldn't do that today cause we like legit never saw each other even though we lived in the same city.
"Oh you're cute":
I remember just finding a girl physically attractive and I would just talk/ flirt my way into her life. It was easy to do but those relationships didn't last long. Either cause I found that I wasn't actually attracted to anything other than their face or it just got boring.
The one's who grow on you:
When someone "grew" on me, these were the most interesting because at first I had no zero interest in them. Eventually I just started to catch feelings for them. These one's were weird cause I didn't know where it would go. One ended after like a month and half and the other ended up being my lover for a good 9 months. I had the most physical contact with these relationships and for the most part...that's all it was. Feeling comfortable with someone and feeling wanted by someone was new to me and I liked it. This approach is similar to the one's I'll be getting to soon, so I'm not sure how to feel about these.
I just want to know the real you:
I think it's important to have a friendship before a relationship because that's real. If you date someone because of lust you find out all the things you like and don't like afterwards. I like to know the real part of people first before I start making moves on someone. Now this doesn't always work out for me because I take my time. A lot of girls I've come across tend to rush into wanting to have someone to call their own and to me that's just a complete turn off. I read that as needy or just not taking enough time to learn my interests/ habits/ lifestyle. But that's just me and this is something I still do today.
I didn't see it coming (Long Term):
You can fall head over heels in like/ love with a friend unexpectedly. Timing is everything. If you both just happen to be in the right situation at the right time, boom, magic. You could have a relationship that lasts a life time because you have a friendship to back it up. You also have a new found love for each other and lustful spark.
I didn't see it coming (Short Term):
Sometimes the "I didn't see it coming" can be a completely random person. This person might have taken your breath away during a poem she performed. Maybe you bumped into them by accident in the library or coffee shop. You then proceed to have a random conversation and just something about them, more than looks turns you on. Timing is crucial for this is well.
Tips:
Learn to read body language and develop good judgement. Feeling out vibes is very important for making friends and dating. If you suck at this, then you need to practice.This way you'll deal with less time-wasters in your life time. You can learn a lot about someone by their dating style. I avoid people who want to "settle down" or like me for superficial reasons. People think I would be good to date because of my motives, but then they don't have any motives of their own like what?
Know what you're about and don't settle for physical security because that shit is sad and some low-level stuff. Build yourself up for your dream spouse.
Know what you're about and don't settle for physical security because that shit is sad and some low-level stuff. Build yourself up for your dream spouse.
Me currently:
The fast life is what I'm about because being still is not my thing. I have no interest in people trying to slow down their life. I love adventures, dates, group hang-outs, and art.
Oh and I don't believe in relationships. I love with no strings attached, both friendships & love interests. If I like/ love you, then I'll show you. I don't live with expectations, and neither should you.
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